With sight loss you lose your independence and confidence
When Ally Reid started to lose his sight 23 years ago it seemed like his whole world had caved in.
The former military mechanic went blind in his left eye and only had peripheral vision in his right. Doctors told him he had suffered optic neuritis – damage to the optic nerve. But they were at a loss as to how it had happened, with their best guess being that a virus had attacked the nerve through his spinal column.
Ally, 74, felt lost and confused. His independence had been suddenly stripped away from him and with it his confidence.
Ally says: “I sat at home for six months feeling sorry for myself. I thought I was more or less finished. Someone actually said to me: ‘Go and get a white stick and watch the roads.’.”
Trip to bowling pointed way ahead
It was a desperate situation, but a meeting with a social worker gave him new hope.
Ally, who had been a keen golfer before his sight loss, says: “She said, ‘You can’t just be sitting around doing nothing.’. She took me to the bowling. There were people there who were completely blind. They’d set the ball off and end up 2ins from the jack. I thought, ‘If they can do it, then maybe I can do golf.’.”
Ally decided to get back to playing at his home course, Stonehaven, but he knew he couldn’t do it alone. Unlike some golfers with sight loss, Ally can see the ball on the ground and line himself up, but he needs help to know where the ball finishes.
He says: “I realised I’ve got to get somebody to help. And that’s the thing – when you ask people, they just say, ‘What do you want us to do?’. I thought, ‘Well I know the course because I’ve played Stonehaven for 20-odd years. I said, ‘if I hit the ball can you just tell me where it’s gone.’ That’s what they did.”
Unfortunately, there’s not enough people who can understand how you feel when you’re blind. With Sight Scotland Veterans, they understand what you actually need.
A world of opportunity
Since then golf has opened a host of opportunities he never would have thought possible. Ally has played across the world in places such as Japan, Italy, Canada, Malaysia and the US.
He continues: “Japan is the best. They treat you so well. If somebody had said when I could see, ‘We’re going to go to Japan for a week to play golf,’ I would have thought, ‘No way’. But when you get there, they’re absolutely beautiful people. Places like Malaysia as well. You think, ‘These people would do anything for you’.”
Ally has also represented The Rest of the World against The US and Canada on six occasions – his team holding a proud winning record of 5-1. And the confidence he’s gained from his golf has filtered down throughout his life. He adds: “When I went back to work, I had the confidence to say, ‘I know I can do this.’.”
Support network helps build confidence
Throughout this time, Ally has had vital support from Sight Scotland Veterans, which he says has helped him to adjust to his impaired vision.
He adds: “With sight loss, you lose your independence immediately and then you lose your confidence. You need to get them back. Confidence to me is the main thing.
“Unfortunately, there’s not enough people who can understand how you feel when you’re blind. With Sight Scotland Veterans, they understand what you actually need. If we could all appreciate that we could help somebody who is losing their sight, you’re giving them a lease of life. They don’t know how to ask or who to go to. We need organisations that understand what it’s about.”
Now Ally is himself dedicated to helping others with sight loss. He has seen the difference support can make and being able to talk to people who have gone through something similar.
Ally says: “We train people to stand up and speak to get their confidence growing. People who normally wouldn’t say a word now end up speaking to people. It’s rewarding. There was a young man who had some problems with confidence. We took him under our wing and now he plays for Scotland. It’s changed his life.”
Sight Scotland Veterans supports veterans living with significant sight loss. Our support equips people with the skills to rediscover and maintain their independence and to improve their quality of life. Joining Sight Scotland Veterans is free and membership is open to anyone living with sight loss who has served in the Armed Forces – including National Service
Stay connected to the things that matter to you
If you are a veteran, or know a veteran, who is affected by sight loss, please get in touch today via the helpline.
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